Saturday, October 13, 2012

It’s a funny thing….

Which Truck Has Autism?  You'd Have To Get To Know Them To Find Out


I had so much to say about Autism just last week, but sometimes I overload on it (watching movies on it, reading a million books on it, immersing myself in Autism day in and out in every way to better understand Ben’s world) and then I wake up hoping that Autism is not part of our world any longer.  I want it to be a condition he has outgrown or disease he has been cured of for life.  Sometimes I wake up and have that brief moment when I forget he has Autism and it feels like a fresh slate.  Opportunities abound. 
But reality is that Autism is his world.  And it’s up to me to fight for him for all the opportunities he’s entitled too since he can’t at this point.  Whether it’s insurance coverage for ABA therapy (that is, at only 2 hours a week, making a HUGE difference in his world), the school options he has for pre-school next year and beyond, the education he’s allowed when he is in school (all the subjects and not just life skills such as learning to dress himself or take a bath or ride a bus).  I will fight and fight and fight all the obstacles in his way.  Wouldn’t any parent for their child?  Doesn’t every parent believe their child can do anything they want and overcome everything in their way with the help of others and their family?  I do and I sure do hope this is true for all families/children. 
Insurance coverage for the therapies is the biggest obstacle I face for Ben’s progress right now.  The state of WA provides 7 hours a week for him.  Suggested number of hours is 25+ a week.  Budget cuts mean that that’s all that’s available.  And that’s up from 4 in the spring.  We are able to get 2 hours a week of ABA because the therapist is a mental health counselor and it’s being billed as family therapy.  But this is rare and was a fluke to find it available.  Her time is in high demand and 2 hours is all we could get.  Ben is also in a gymnastics class 1 hour a week that I count towards “socialization”.  That gives us 10 hours a week.  15 hours short of what he’s supposed to be getting in order to make a difference in his world.  15 hours a week short of what every child is entitled too in their life.  And we might have a lot more than other kids.  And other kids have much more than us.  While state laws are passing for insurance to cover this therapy, self-funded insurance plans are doing everything they can to deny this benefit for coverage because it “costs too much”.  The cost of covering a child into adulthood with Autism without enough therapy, according to a Harvard study, runs about 3.2 million over their lifetime.  That’s just for the individual with Autism.  There is also research out there that caregivers and parents of special needs kids have a spike in health care costs due to the 24/7 stress it induces.  They can expect to age 6 years for every 1 year of care given to a special needs child/adult.  They will likely die earlier than they would have due to the strain on their entire being.  And what will our kids do then if we parents or caregivers are gone?  The health care system is not set up to take care of these individuals in a way that affords them a decent quality of life.  That worries me all the time, every night when I can’t sleep and every day when my mind wanders about Ben’s future.  We have GOT to get it together as a nation.  Autism is becoming an epidemic in the United States.  If our health care systems don’t catch up, we risk enormous consequences for the future of our community. 
A fire is lit within me every day to make the world better for Ben.  To get him everything I can to help his life turn out differently than it would otherwise.  Join me!  Start within your community.  Any special needs parents could always use a home cooked meal, some errands run for them, someone to watch their child for an hour or so for the parent to take a break or get some much needed sleep.  It’s impossible to understand unless you are living it, but trust me, these parents/caregivers need a hand and a break when you have the time.  Karma comes around and we all help each other when we help our community/circle of friends/schools. 
(Apologies for the long delay between posts.  Ben was having a hard time this week with what turns out to be severe eczema on his burn areas that kept him waking up every night with pain and itching and then the autism would keep him up for 2-3 hours in the middle of the night.  Needless to say, I was tired.  Melatonin caught us up last night and I was excited to post again!)

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